Unspoken Expectations Can Ruin Your Relationship, Know How

Communication is the key to sustaining any relationship. If you feel you need your partner by your side, you need to tell them; if you feel unappreciated, do let your partner know; if you feel unloved, you should express your emotions to them. Because what matters is communicating about your issues and problems with your partner rather than piling all that up in your mind and feeling hurt.

Explaining the importance of communication and how unspoken expectations can lead to destruction in relationships, psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera recently shared an Instagram post. She used a case as an example to make her followers understand why it is unfair to expect other people to read your mind when you fail to express your thoughts.

Dr Nicole shared a heartfelt story of Monique, who was never taught to address issues that troubled her and that made her have unspoken expectations. As her parents always avoided difficult conversations, Monique grew up living a secretive life. Now, she has a family of her own. However, she often feels unappreciated but she doesn’t communicate well with her husband Jason. Giving the example of the story, Dr Nicole shared that unspoken expectations hurt us the most. She added:

1. Actions are good signs to express yourself but doing everything for your family with the expectation of getting something in return is a problem. It just leaves you feeling unloved.
2. When expectations are not fulfilled, it makes us feel disappointed, which leads to fights.
3. It leaves your partner on the hanging edge thinking about what’s gone wrong and makes them distant.
4. The fear of not talking builds a huge communication gap which is quite difficult to fill as over the years.

How to get rid of unspoken expectations? Dr Nicole shared that you should follow the tips given below:

1. Talk to your partner. No matter how hard it is, just tell them what you need or you are feeling.
2. Give yourself a break from all the overthinking and look at the positive things your partner does for you.
3. Plan things which you want and invite your partner. It’ll make you and your partner happy.