Impressing a Girl
Show her that you have a great personality. Demonstrate your great personality to the girl before you even ask her out. By being positive, kind, funny, thoughtful, and well-mannered, you can show her that you are a great guy who would make an excellent boyfriend. If you feel like your personality is lacking in some way, focus on improving yourself. For example, if you tend to be pessimistic, make it your goal to identify three positive things about your life every day. Over time, you will begin to find it easier to see the positives in your everyday life and you will also benefit from higher self-esteem, better sleep, and improved empathy. Remember to talk to her. Research has shown that a great personality can make people find you more attractive. But if you never talk to her, she may never get to see how great of a guy you are.
Make sure that you always look and feel great. Looking and feeling good will help you to be confident around the girl you like and that may be enough to win her over. Take plenty of time every day to eat healthy, exercise, sleep, and groom yourself. Feeling good about yourself will help you project happiness and confidence, which are always attractive. Eat healthy and exercise regularly. Rest and relax every day. Make sure your hair looks good. Wear clothes that express your personality. Wear cologne and deodorant.
Look for opportunities to showcase your unique abilities and resources. Some girls may find certain things attractive in a guy, while others will not. But the only way that you can find out if the girl you like finds your unique talents attractive is to look for opportunities to showcase them. For example, if you are an excellent guitar player, invite the girl you like to come to one of your band’s practices or shows. Or if there is a sport that you excel at, ask her to come to one of your games.
Do things that you love to do. Some girls are impressed by guys who are passionate about their hobbies and make time for themselves. If you have things that you love to do, make sure that you make plenty of time to do those things. For example, if you are an avid reader, make sure that you keep doing that even while you are pursuing this girl. It will give you more things to talk to her about when you see her and she may even be impressed to find you reading in a coffee shop some random afternoon.
Asking Her Out
Plan your approach. Asking a girl out on a date can be frightening, but if you make a plan it might not be as scary. Think about when, where, and how you plan to ask her out. Try to work out what you want the moment to look like and spend some time visualizing a positive response.
Be well dressed and groomed. You want to look your best when you ask her out for the first time. If you are wearing your grubbiest shirt and haven’t showered in a couple of days, she will not have a good impression of you. But you don’t need to wear a tuxedo or get a makeover before you ask her out either. Just make sure that you are clean, wearing some flattering clothes, and that your hair and facial hair are groomed.
Meet her gaze. Confidence is sexy, and one of the most confident things you can do is look her in the eyes when you ask her out. While it may feel more comfortable to look at the floor and mumble your question to her, this will not impress her. Look her straight in the eyes and hold your head up high to show her that you are confident. Some people find eye contact kind of alarming or threatening. If she doesn’t respond well to eye contact, don’t read too much into it.
Stand up straight and tall. The way that you stand can also indicate how confident you are. If you are slumping or crossing your arms, she might interpret this as fear or nervousness. Instead, stand up tall with your arms hanging loosely at your sides. Keep your shoulders back and your chest puffed out a bit. This will show her your full height and breadth, which will be much more impressive than if you approach her in a hunched over position.
Keep it short and direct. There’s no need to talk to her for an hour before you ask her out. In fact, if you take too long to ask, you might lose your nerve. Instead, walk right up to her, give her a quick compliment, and then tell her that you’d like to spend some time with her. If you’d rather call her, that’s fine too, just don’t ask her out via Facebook or text message or she may think that you are too nervous to talk to her. Try saying something like, “Hi. You seem really cool! Listen, I am in a bit of a hurry, but I thought I’d see if you would be interested in going out with me sometime. Can I get your number?”
Shrug it off if she says no. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, a girl will say no when you try to ask her out. The occasional “No” is something that you will have to deal with when you ask a girl out on a date. If she says no, don’t get upset. Just shrug it off, and try not to act like too disappointed. Try saying something like, “It’s cool. You just seem like a fun person to chill with so I thought I’d ask. But no worries! Have a good day!”
Increasing Her Affection for You
Be an amazing date. If the girl that you like says yes and you do get to go on a date with her, make sure that you do all that you can to make sure that she wants to go out again sometime. Little gestures like opening doors, helping her put her coat on or take it off, and paying for dinner can be very impressive to some girls. If you really want to wow her, show up at her door with flowers, take her somewhere fancy, and impress her with your food recommendations at the restaurant. To impress her even more on your first date, find out what she likes through casual conversation and plan a date that incorporates those likes. For example, if she is a big fan of horror movies, take her to see the latest horror flick. If she is a Chinese food fanatic, take her to a Chinese restaurant for dinner. If she loves to play mini golf, take her to play some mini golf!
Compliment her. When you first pick up or meet up with the girl for your date, make sure that you pay her a sincere, specific compliment. You can say something simple like, “You look amazing in that dress!” or, “Your hair looks really pretty.” Whatever you choose, just make sure that you deliver the compliment in a direct way and look her in the eye as you say it. Keep the compliments coming as you continue to date and get to know each other. Don’t just compliment her appearance either. Make sure that you also compliment her intelligence, her sense of humor, and her other talents as you learn about them. For example, you can say something like, “I really admire your talent at track and field.”
Talk about safe subjects at first. When you are first getting to know a girl that you like, you should be careful not to delve too deeply into personal issues. Stick to things that won’t get her feeling uncomfortable or vulnerable For example, you can ask about her favorite music, movies she’s seen recently, or her hobbies. Avoid discussing topics that might be uncomfortable for her such as your ex-girlfriends, family conflicts, or your religion. Instead, focus on questions that help you get to know her better. Ask her about her likes and dislikes, her friends and family, her interests, etc.
Ask more questions to get to know her even better. It is important to have fun while you are getting to know a girl, so make sure that you also ask questions that reveal her personality. By now you should know a bit more about her likes and dislikes, so you can probe a bit further into those topics as well. For example, if she told you what her favorite movie was on your last date, ask her what she likes about that movie, how many times she has seen it, who her favorite character is, etc. She will be impressed by your memory of what she said and your sincere interest in something she enjoys.
Keep seeing her and be patient. Getting to know someone can take a long time and it may be a while before she falls for you. But don’t get discouraged or impatient. Just keep trying your best to show her a good time and get to know her. Try to look at each time that you go out or spend time together as an opportunity to find out more and show her what makes you worthy of her love.
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