Taking Care of Yourself as a Bachelor
Learn to take good care of yourself. Learn about what makes you look good and what makes you feel good. This is a time in which you can form your preferences about your style, your manner of dressing and the way you wear your hair. Indulge in crafting your image the way you want it. Maintain your dental and bodily health by having regular checkups with your dentist and doctor. Get your hair cared for by a trusted stylist. Learn what suits you best and build a good rapport with your stylist to achieve your best head of hair every visit. Practice self-care get enough sleep, food, and rest.
Be self-reliant. Learn to clean and maintain your living space. Learn to cook healthy meals for yourself, don't always eat out. Maintain your clothes and shoes and learn how to make necessary repairs to them. Being able to take care of yourself allows you to be self-reliant and reduces any neediness you might otherwise experience. It gives you the freedom to not be dependent on others, even people you'd normally pay to fix things for you. This can give you a greater sense of freedom and competence.
Take the time to discover yourself and what makes you tick. From a psychological perspective, you deserve to understand yourself well and to push past the expectations others have of you to discover what you really want in life and who you really are. Determine your purpose in life and think about what you want to achieve in life. Make plans. Perhaps write these down or embed them deeply in your mind. It is important to have goals to strive for that have meaning for you and that match your talents too. If your purpose includes being part of a couple, when do you see this as a likely possibility? You may want your bachelorhood to last for a year, five years, a decade or even longer, so think this through when deciding on your future plans.
Being a Mindful Bachelor
Make peace with being a bachelor. Whether it's for now or for the long term, whether it's by choice or necessity, seek to accept the circumstances for what they are at this time and plan to make the most of your uncoupled status. Be grateful for the situation you have at this time and the people you know. Realize that this is the right fit at this time in your life, even if this may change some day.
Be true to yourself. Listen to your heart and your head together. Don't feel that you have to date or even marry someone just because of social expectations or family pressures. If the bachelor's life is working well for you, then that's your choice for now, and you don't have to conform to other people's expectations. Be aware that there will always be someone in your life who thinks they know better than you what you need. Listen politely but don't be swayed if what they say doesn't ring true for you.
Avoid being defensive about your status as a bachelor. It comes across as self-righteous and alienating if a person spends a lot of time defending the status quo of their life choices. If it descends to criticizing the choices others have made, it also comes across as judgmental. Avoid these traps by being happy with your bachelorhood status without insisting that others would benefit from trying it too or putting down people who could be potential partners just because you're feeling jaded. Instead, be a grateful, resourceful and resilient person who likes life just as it is right now, and yet be open to the possibilities the future may bring.
Socializing as a Bachelor
Plan your social calendar according to what works for you. If you love going out often and attending parties, events and festivals, then that's your thing. If you prefer quiet walks in the park or woods and a good read, then that's your thing. Don't feel pressured to be what you're not; sometimes assumptions about your single status may result in people demanding that you do things that just don't interest you and that's when you'll need to let them know it's not for you but thanks anyway. Fit in the events and socializing that interest you and leave out the things you don't care for.
Have plenty of friends. Friendship is definitely an important part of the bachelor's life. Some friends will be close, while most friends will be people you know from different interactions in work, social and family contexts. Be friendly and supportive of your friends to ensure that they keep you involved in their lives.
Realize that dating is part of the bachelor's life. There is no need to be lonely! You may be searching for "the one", or you may just want to have casual relationships for the time being. Whatever your motivation, relationships are still very much a part of your potential, if that is what you want. If you don't want to date, now or ever, that's fine too. Just keep an open mind though, as you never know what the future may bring.
Consider travel. You can learn about the world and yourself through travel and there are plenty of places to see in the world and many ways to get there. If you enjoy traveling, being single makes it easier because you don't have to make compromises or lug along family baggage. Make the most of this time of single travel, which costs less and involves greater mobility.
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