Approaching the Subject the Casual Way
Have courage. You may be a little nervous about asking your guardian permission to use tampons. Especially if they've told you right off the bat that you should wait until you're older. Bring it up when you're the only ones in the kitchen, car, living room, bathroom, etc. Try saying such things as: "Hey mom, would you be okay with me using tampons as long as you could explain how? I will probably need help, but I think I'm ready." That way, she feels included (like you're not keeping things from her) and you will most likely be allowed to use tampons.
Be respectful. When you have this conversation, make sure to look your parent in the eyes and pay attention to body language. If your parent looks uncomfortable or is saying they would prefer you to wait, explain a little more. For example, try saying something like: "Mom, if I could make a list of facts why tampons would be easier than pads, would you be okay with it? The pads are uncomfortable. What about swimming? I need it for that, too."
Write a list of reasons and benefits. If your guardian still won't budge after the previous steps and you find yourself writing a list, then so be it. Make sure you use good sources, such as www.beinggirl.com. Find a site that will answer some questions that you may be too embarrassed to ask yourself. After you have gotten the information and have your list ready, arrange a day to explain it to your parent. You might have to plan your words a few days before, but if you have to go that far, it's highly recommended. Your guardian should understand. If it is a male, or if the male guardian is your main guardian, he will probably let you do whatever after step 2. Guys don't do so well with this stuff. Anyway, make sure you know how you will have your list and explanation ready.
Try working out a deal. For example, offer to only use tampons on your medium to heavy flow days, also during sports. Try to get as much out of the deal as you can. Remember, when you earn your own money, you can buy your own tampons. Maybe you should avoid asking until you can get them for yourself and start using them alone. If your guardian asks about it just say you took it upon yourself as a responsible woman to choose your own products. Explain you are comfortable with this choice. They can't decide what you do with your own money unless it is a family thing.
Know how to use tampons. This is both important for reassuring your parent that you know how to do so, and for ensuring you get it right when you do start using them.
Being Direct
Sit your guardian down and have a direct talk with them about your period. You should probably have some facts to back up your reasoning for needing the tampons more than the pads. If your mother or guardian is understanding and direct as well, they will most definitely understand.
If it doesn't work out as you planned, just be more responsible. That will also show you are becoming a woman and you can take care of important things. Sooner or later, they'll catch on and understand that you are ready to switch.
Make sure to use the tampon correctly and try again if it feels uncomfortable. That means it's not in properly. Try again.
Being Discreet
Leave a note in your parent's purse or makeup bag before bed. Perhaps a sticky note on a sandwich you made for lunch? Make sure they're the only one who gets it.
Wait for them to discuss the note with you. They will probably talk to you about it and what they think you need. Then you should talk about what you would be comfortable with and what you think you should buy. If you continue with pads after that, use the first method.
Make sure to ask for help if you need it. If your parents are flexible and easy to talk to, this method should be easy.
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