Do Guys Expect a Kiss on the First Date?

Is a kiss expected at the end of a first date?

No, and roughly half of first dates don’t end in a kiss. Only about 53% of first dates actually end with a kiss. You should only kiss if it’s what you both want. A guy who’s truly interested in you will be happy to wait for your first kiss. If a guy gets upset about waiting, he’s not respecting your boundaries.

A guy might expect a kiss if you already know each other. You might decide to go on a date with a friend or someone you met through mutual acquaintances. When you’ve known each other for a while, you’ll likely feel more comfortable sharing a kiss. In that case, your date might decide to go in for the kiss at the end of the night. You can still decide it’s not the right time, though. Tell him, “I’m excited to see where this goes, but I’d like to wait for our first kiss.”

It’s normal to delay a first kiss if you met online. You might not feel comfortable kissing someone you just met, and that’s totally okay. A guy you met online is still a stranger, so don’t feel pressured to kiss him. Chances are, he’s used to waiting until a later date. You might feel more comfortable if you let him know early on that you don’t like to kiss on a first date. Say, “I’m so happy we could do this. I wanted to tell you now that I don’t end my first dates with a kiss. I hope you understand.”

Should you kiss on a first date?

Go in for a kiss if it feels right. Sharing your first kiss is a romantic way to end your first date, and kissing shows your date you’re attracted to them. Additionally, a kiss will help you both evaluate each other as a potential partner. If you’re both into it, lean in for a kiss. You don’t have to follow any kind of “social etiquette” when you’re seeing someone.

What does a kiss on the first date mean?

It usually means both people are interested in a second date. Typically, people only kiss someone they find attractive. Chances are, your date is into you! Take it as a good sign that they want to see you again. If you’ve gone out with a friend, a kiss might mean you’re taking your relationship to the next level. After your first kiss might be a good time to mention a second date. You could say, “I’d love to see you again. Maybe we could go out next weekend.”

Kissing can help you figure out if you have chemistry. You don’t always feel a spark on a first date. Sharing a first kiss could help you figure out if there’s mutual attraction. Generally, you’re more likely to have chemistry with someone you think is a good kisser. If you decide to kiss, it might help you decide if you want a second date or not. If there’s no chemistry, another date might not be worth it.

Men often don’t worry about what a kiss means. Some guys avoid analyzing things when it comes to dating. He likely isn’t thinking about the timing of your first kiss. He just wants to know if you had a great time. If you don’t want to kiss him, reassure him by saying, “I had an amazing time tonight and would love to see you again.”

Is it bad if you don't kiss on the first date?

No, it’s totally okay to delay your first kiss. You should only kiss someone if you feel totally comfortable. You might prefer to wait until the 3rd or 4th date for your first kiss. If something feels off, just tell him you aren’t ready yet. You could say: “I would love a kiss, but I’m just not ready yet.” “I prefer to go on a few dates before having a first kiss.” “Tonight’s been perfect, so can we end with a hug?”

Sometimes it takes time to find a spark. You’ve probably had dates where you felt immediate chemistry with the other person. On the flipside, you’ll likely have dates where you’re not sure if you connect. When that happens, you might decide to go on a second or even a third date before you decide if you want to kiss.

How do you initiate a kiss on a first date?

Make eye contact to get his attention. Staring into your date’s eyes shows him you like him, and it kindles passion between you. If he stares deep into your eyes, he probably wants to kiss you, too. If he keeps avoiding your eyes, it might be best to wait for your first kiss.

Lean in so he knows you’re interested in a kiss. After you make eye contact, angle your body toward your date. Hopefully, he’ll lean toward you, so you know he’s into it. He might not be ready for a kiss if he pulls away. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you, so don’t despair. He may just need more time to get to know you.

Touch him on his thigh or cheek to create some intimacy. Breaking the touch barrier signals to your date that you’re into him. If he responds to your touch, go in for the kiss—that is, if he hasn’t already. Many guys like to initiate the first kiss, so he might go for it if he thinks you’re into it. If he pulls away from your touch, he might not be the type to kiss on the first date.

How do I prepare for a first kiss?

Freshen your breath and apply lip balm so you feel ready. You want to make a good first impression, and the pressure can be nerve-wracking. Put your mind at ease with an icy mint and a softening lip-balm. You’ll feel ready to lock lips in no time. Always carry mints, gum, or mouthwash when you go on a first date. You don’t want to get caught with garlic or onion breath.

Visualize yourself having a successful first kiss. Visualization is a great way to calm your nerves. Before you go in for a kiss, imagine yourself leaning toward your date, meeting his lips with yours, and enjoying the moment. Then, picture him smiling and telling you it felt amazing. Hopefully, this will help you feel a lot more confident about your first kiss. It might be fun to imagine different scenarios for your first kiss. For instance, you might picture you initiating and then fantasize about him initiating.